There’s a huge push to end double standards across gender, especially when it comes to sexuality. Men and women should be able to make their own decisions about their sexuality, and if you want to judge, at least judge equally. While I completely agree, I believe the double standards surrounding parenthood and the work force are much more dangerous, and are, therefore, in need of higher prioritization (expect in the case of sexual violence).
As seen in the video, it is much easier for a man to do what it takes to get the job done and still seem like a nice guy. Most people grew up believing men should be the primary providers and women should be the primary caretakers. When people disrupt our expectations, it is easy for them to rub us the wrong way, even if they are only doing what they need to do to get the job done.
The challenge is to be aware of these gendered expectations not only when you are evaluating others, but also when you evaluate yourself. It is easy to feel guilty for not meeting gender expectations, and this shouldn’t be the case. If you are doing what you are supposed to be doing, then you have met any standard that matters. Forget all those mass-produced expectations that, although marked “one size fits all,” really don’t fit anyone.