Ellen Page’s Coming Out Speech

During her heartfelt speech about authenticity and accepting yourself despite unforgiving societal standards, Ellen Page came out. Congratulations, Ellen!

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May You Have the Courage to Change the Things that You Can

I love Amy Poehler’s Smart Girls campaign. Everything she posts is so heart-warming and inspiring. It really helps you believe in a better life and, more importantly, a better society. This video is no exception. At a time when many people are setting new goals and trying new things, it is important to remember you can do anything you want to do. You might not be able to do it well, but you can at least do it.

No lame excuses like being too old or that society is too oppressive. You are the most powerful person in your life. So, as that old prayer says, may you have the courage to change the things that you can, the serenity to accept the things that you can’t, and the wisdom to know the difference.

If you need a reminder, click the image below to download your copy of the Smart Girls bookmarks.

Smart Girls Bookmark

She Keeps Me Warm

You might recognize Mary Lambert’s voice from the refrain of Mackelmore’s “Same Love,” which advocated a message of equality for same sex couples. That refrain has been extended, creating her new single, “She Keeps Me Warm.” It is a song that “celebrates the love and attraction within same-sex relationships. It is a pure love song meant for all people.”

So if you’re in the mood for a love song, check it out:

Don’t Let Labels Hold You Back


There’s a huge push to end double standards across gender, especially when it comes to sexuality. Men and women should be able to make their own decisions about their sexuality, and if you want to judge, at least judge equally. While I completely agree, I believe the double standards surrounding parenthood and the work force are much more dangerous, and are, therefore, in need of higher prioritization (expect in the case of sexual violence).

As seen in the video, it is much easier for a man to do what it takes to get the job done and still seem like a nice guy. Most people grew up believing men should be the primary providers and women should be the primary caretakers. When people disrupt our expectations, it is easy for them to rub us the wrong way, even if they are only doing what they need to do to get the job done.

The challenge is to be aware of these gendered expectations not only when you are evaluating others, but also when you evaluate yourself. It is easy to feel guilty for not meeting gender expectations, and this shouldn’t be the case. If you are doing what you are supposed to be doing, then you have met any standard that matters. Forget all those mass-produced expectations that, although marked “one size fits all,” really don’t fit anyone.

Because Who Is Perfect?

While I was in college, I became really involved in disability advocacy. It taught me how valuable diversity is and how true it is that each person can add value to the world given the right opportunities. It also taught me how hard it is to achieve those opportunities when other people don’t believe you can and don’t even want you to believe that you can.

As feminists, we are already familiar with this idea. We know how limiting it can be when someone labels you according to something as arbitrary as gender. Unfortunately, these labels exist for each category outside the majority and are often just as limiting as gender norms. That’s why feminism, as a fight for equality, doesn’t make sense without advocating for all.

Everyone deserves to feel beautiful and worthy of his/her place in society. However, people with disabilities are often left out these ideals and are even excluded from mere representations of our society. Since they are a normal part of any society, it makes sense for them to be included in things like movies and the mannequins in store windows. However, we have obsession with ignoring diversity and pretending beauty only exists in one form. How ridiculous!

Silly media moguls, beauty is for everyone.